Friday, October 21, 2011

homey.

i grew up in a home that was a warm, inviting place to come home to every day after school.  the house was always dusted, mopped, & shiny.  a delicious, home-cooked meal was on the table every night.  prayers were said.  scriptures were read.  lots of hugs & love revolved around my home. 

naturally, since i grew up this way, & thoroughly enjoyed these luxuries, i want my family to have them as well.  i want my husband & daughter to be able to come home to the aroma of a delectable dinner in the oven & sparkling clean floors, with laundry folded & put away neatly in drawers.  some people think of cleaning & cooking as undesirable chores.  i love them.  i love perusing through cook books at the beginning of the week & planning the dinner menu.  the cleaning aisle at the grocery store is by far my favorite.  there is nothing like the satisfaction of taking the swiffer cloth off & seeing all of the dirt & grime that is no longer on my floors-because of ME.  i guess i'm easy to please?

i've been asked, more than a few times, why i didn't want to go to college, or why didn't i put off marriage & kids so i could fulfill my dreams & wants.  the answer is simple: these are my dreams & wants.  when i was little, i wanted to be a mom when i grew up.  in high school, i knew i wanted to get married young & have babies.  i have never had a dream career or motivation to be anything other than a mom & wife.  some people might find this shameful, even irresponsible.  i get it. maybe i'm a little 1950's, but i truly believe my place is in the home.  i have a job that is challenging & joyful, messy & fantastic. & it makes me happy.  i guess i'm just a little different.  




12 comments:

  1. I don`t think there`s anything wrong with the way you have chosen to live your life. We`re all different - that`s what makes the world go round!
    I had my son later on - only because it took me this long to meet the love of my life! I`ve worked many jobs, lived on my own, travelled and had a wonderful time. But the most rewarding thing I`ve done in my life is be mummy to my son. And I`m with you on the cleaning islke in the supermarket - love it!!!

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  2. I find nothing wrong with this at all. In fact, we share the same dream. I LOVE the mommy role. Countless times I have heard from outsiders that, "I was born to be a mommy," and I truly believe it. Anyone can learn a profession, not everyone can be a mommy. I am living out God's plan for me and loving every minute of it. My job pays in bear hugs, kisses, and "I wu yew's" (I love you's). What could be better than that?

    Keep up the writing! I found your blog through Meghann's (Bringing up Bumble) and it has been one of my top reads ever since. Your little girl is beautiful and you seem like such a sweet person. I am a young mom myself (23) with a 22 month old son so I can really relate to you. Thanks for writing your journey through mommyhood. I share some of your stories with my own family and my son loves looking at all of the pictures.

    Amanda White =)

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  3. Everyone's dreams are different and if you're living your dream life girl, then being a stay at home mom and wife is exactly what you should be doing. It's a very hard and under appreciated job, but it's an incredible one :)

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  4. Lisa you are the sweetest writer. I love your way of words. You are living your dream, & you are amazing. I look up to you!

    Jenny Uhlman :)

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  5. Very interesting post. I love the way you write.

    I too chose to forgo college because I didn't see the point. I knew I wanted to have a family. And I also knew that I wasn't going to let anyone else raise my babies for me because, having worked as a nanny, I know that no one else will love my children as much as I do. So whats the point of going and getting a qualification when it will most likely be outdated by the time I have the time to be anything other than a mother?

    Few people in today's society respect women who choose to mother their own children rather than pass them off to nannies or daycare to pursue their own careers, which is truly sad, because there is much more happiness in giving your time and attention to your children then there is in a path spent seeking a more comfortable lifestyle.

    Its funny cause I do a little photography and people are always telling me I should turn that into my career as if I am desperate for a job to define me, but I really hate the idea of charging people for things that will make them happy. I'd much rather do it for free as gifts to those who are less fortunate. I guess, I too, am just a little different. :)

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  6. I am the same as you, Lisa. My wants are to have a happy and healthy family. There is nothing wrong with that :-)

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  7. lisa, when i was a little girl i knew that i wanted to be a wife and mommy too! although i still work i feel like the time i spend with my little family is much more appreciated. I have many things that i would love to do as in a career but i feel like once my children are grown and they don't need my constant supervision, i'll have all the time in the world to pursue whatever it is my heart desires. i love your writing and i look forward to what your next blogs are about. p.s. aubrey is such a doll!

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  8. I always knew I wanted to be a mommy ! That was more success to me more than anything else in this world. To me, if you have a family you have it all. Before I had my son I had plans to go back to work but after I had him I thought to myself I don't want anyone raising him, and I don't want to miss out on anything. I want to be there for each step of his life and all his milestones. I feel like no one can take care of him better than I can and I love being a mommy and spending time with him everyday.

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  9. I am the exact same way! Always knew I wanted to be a mommy! How long do you plan on staying home with your kids? Until they're in school or do you plan to stay home for longer?

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  10. Love all your thoughts! Melissa-After my kids are all in school, I will probably get a part time job or do some sort of volunteer work during the day.

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  11. I love this post! I can soo relate to everything you write. It has always been my dream to be a wife and mom. I would love nothing more than to be a stay at home mom when my husband and I have children. My husband is not on board with that idea, so my next hope is to work part time. Did you husband fully support you staying home? I love your blog by the way, found you from The Shine Project, I think! :)

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  12. I love this and am so glad I'm not the only one who feels the same! My husband and I have been best friends for 6 years, got married earlier this year, and would love to have a family soon. So many people look down on me because thats the life I WANT. They seem to think I am thrwoing my life away or being lazy, I disagree! Motherhood is the greatest, most rewarding career you could chose! (Im my opinion, I know a lot of great women who also work outside the home, and maybe they can do it, but I couldnt!)

    Kbreit.blogspot.com

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